a rare act of sportsmanship
Today’s T4D comes to us from Wisconsin subscriber Scott who writes.
Kirk: I’m a long-time fan of your T4D column. I’m passing on a story that happened in my neck of the woods - Milwaukee, Wisconsin. I think it’s Kirk-worthy.  Take care! ~ Scott
Below I have copied the story….or you can click the link. It is a really great story. http://highschool.rivals.com/content.asp?CID=914609Â
The coach never considered any other option.
It didn’t matter that his DeKalb, Ill., High School basketball team had ridden a bus two and a half hours to get to Milwaukee, then waited another hour past game time to play. Didn’t matter that the game was close, or that this was a chance to beat a big city team.
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| Johntel Franklin scored 10 points in the game following the loss of his mother. |
Something else was on Dave Rohlman’s mind when he asked for a volunteer to shoot two free throws awarded his team on a technical foul in the second quarter. His senior captain raised his hand, ready to go to the line as he had many times before.
Only this time it was different.
“You realize you’re going to miss them, don’t you?” Rohlman said.
Darius McNeal nodded his head. He understood what had to be done.
It was a Saturday night in February, and the Barbs were playing a non-conference game on the road against Milwaukee Madison. It was the third meeting between the two schools, who were developing a friendly rivalry that spanned two states.
The teams planned to get together after the game and share some pizzas and soda. But the game itself almost never took place.
Hours earlier, the mother of Milwaukee Madison senior captain Johntel Franklin died at a local hospital. Carlitha Franklin had been in remission after a five-year fight with cervical cancer, but she began to hemorrhage that morning while Johntel was taking his college ACT exam.
Her son and several of his teammates were at the hospital late that afternoon when the decision was made to turn off the life-support system. Carlitha Franklin was just 39.
“She was young and they were real close,” said Milwaukee coach Aaron Womack Jr., who was at the hospital. “He was very distraught and it happened so suddenly he didn’t have time to grieve.”
Womack was going to cancel the game, but Franklin told him he wanted the team to play. And play they did, even though the game started late and Milwaukee Madison dressed only eight players.
Early in the second quarter, Womack saw someone out of the corner of his eye. It was Franklin, who came there directly from the hospital to root his teammates on.
The Knights had possession, so Womack called a time out. His players went over and hugged their grieving teammate. Fans came out of the stands to do the same.
“We got back to playing the game and I asked if he wanted to come and sit on the bench,” Womack said during a telephone interview.
“No,” Franklin replied. “I want to play.”
There was just one problem. Since Franklin wasn’t on the pre-game roster, putting him in meant drawing a technical foul that would give DeKalb two free throws.
Though it was a tight game, Womack was willing to give up the two points. It was more important to help his senior guard and co-captain deal with his grief by playing.
Over on the other bench, though, Rohlman wasn’t so willing to take them. He told the referees to forget the technical and just let Franklin play.
“I could hear them arguing for five to seven minutes, saying, `We’re not taking it, we’re not taking it,” Womack said. “The refs told them, no, that’s the rule. You have to take them.”
That’s when Rohlman asked for volunteers, and McNeal’s hand went up.
He went alone to the free throw line, dribbled the ball a couple of times, and looked at the rim.
His first attempt went about two feet, bouncing a couple of times as it rolled toward the end line. The second barely left his hand.
It didn’t take long for the Milwaukee players to figure out what was going on.
They stood and turned toward the DeKalb bench and started applauding the gesture of sportsmanship. Soon, so did everybody in the stands.
“I did it for the guy who lost his mom,” McNeal told the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel. “It was the right thing to do.”
Franklin would go on to score 10 points, and Milwaukee Madison broke open the game in the second half to win 62-47. Afterward, the teams went out for pizza, two players from each team sharing each pie.Franklin stopped by briefly, thankful that his team was there for him.”I got kind of emotional but it helped a lot just to play,” he said. “I felt like I had a lot of support out there.”
Carlitha Franklin’s funeral was last Friday, and the school turned out for her and her son. Cheerleaders came in uniform, and everyone from the principal and teachers to Johntel’s classmates were there.
“Even the cooks from school showed up,” Womack said. “It lets you know what kind of kid he is.”
Basketball is a second sport for the 18-year-old Franklin, who says he has had some scholarship nibbles and plans to play football in college. He just has a few games left for the Knights, who are 6-11 and got beat 71-36 Tuesday night by Milwaukee Hamilton.
It hasn’t been the greatest season for the team, but they have stuck together through a lot of adversity.
“We maybe don’t have the best basketball players in the world but they go to class and take care of business,” Womack said. “We have a losing record but there’s life lessons going on, good ones.”
None so good, though, as the moment a team and a player decided there were more important things than winning and having good stats.
Yes, DeKalb would go home with a loss. But it was a trip they’ll never forget.
“This is something our kids will hold for a lifetime,” Rohlman said. “They may not remember our record 20 years from now, but they’ll remember what happened in that gym that night.”

February 20th, 2009 at 10:50 am
Reminds me of the quote “sports does not build character but rather reveals character” - thanks for the great story.
Darryn
February 20th, 2009 at 11:13 am
Oh my word. This was wonderful! With the media focusing so much on all the bad stuff going on right now, I REALLY needed to hear that there are good things going on in this world!
My only request…could you give a Kleenex warning next time?
February 20th, 2009 at 11:28 am
What a wonderful story. This truly shows how much love there is for one another in the world. There is still some good happening.
February 20th, 2009 at 11:56 am
There IS a lot of good happening - we just need to attend to it and share it. Kirk, you are truly an ambassador of hope - keep up the good work!
February 20th, 2009 at 11:59 am
It is so good to hear Great Stories today. Albert Schweitzer once said. ” Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the ONLY thing.” Keep spreading the GOOD WORD…….
February 20th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
I live right outside of Milwaukee, but didn’t see this article. Thank you so much for sharing this story! I will be passing it forward (along with a Kleenex warning). It’s such a beautiful example of human kindness and love. We can’t get enough of that these days!
February 20th, 2009 at 1:22 pm
Now THIS is the sort of news that is better than any stimulus package….an indication that our future is bright because of the character of those who display the values our country holds dear. Our true value is not in our GDP, not the Dow Jones, but in the importance we place on the value of our respect for our fellow man. Thanks for sharing.
Roy
February 20th, 2009 at 1:22 pm
Remarkable story and what a terrific message for everyone to take to heart, it’s not always about winning. I hope that people will always remember what happened that night and share with others like Scott did, we need more stories like this.
See you in soon in Vegas!
Deb Anderson
February 20th, 2009 at 1:24 pm
Kirk, I just wanted again, to thank you for coming to Oklahoma. You were the hit of conference. Our leadership group is still raving your praises!
Thanks again
Sarah Dunn, MPH
HRD Administrator
Oklahoma Institute for Mental Health and
Substance Abuse Education and Training
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OKC, OK 73107
Office: 405/522-8306
Cell: 405/990-2252